Loving a broken man costs. It can cost you your entire being. Not because you want to pay that price, it just happens without much notice and certainly with no intention. A broken man will drain you, depleted you but mostly loving a broken man will assassinate your worth.
You see the enemy of your soul knows that you will exhaust yourself in your attempt to love this man that is so broken from his past.
The enemy knows you are faithful, loyal and your heart is compassionate, so he will allow this man to throw you a crumb of hope every so often. Just at the right time, you know, the time you realize you can't do this anymore. That little crumb has a big price attached to it when you take it. That crumb lures you back into the sick cycle of brokenness which brings more disappointments and doubts.
How can you tell if a man is broken? The obvious signs are often denied so look for the not so obvious ones.
He is emotionally unavailable.
His words don't show up in his actions and decisions.
He says he wants to be a better man, but there's a greater broken part of him that won't allow him to follow through in his want to's.
He's inconsistent. You're not sure of his intentions toward you or your placement in his life. Brokenness is now screaming at you. Can you hear it? And if you do, why don't you accept it?
A broken man will not be able to ever give you what you want, need or desire. Stop justifying him and call it as it is, it's brokenness.
The assignment of loving a broken man is to lie to you. The lie that you will never meet a man that is whole and not broken. The lie is that you will never be loved by anyone other than a broken man. The lie that no whole man will ever find you, let alone accept you and embrace a life with you. The lie is that you can never be a whole man's chosen one.
Here's the choice, stay with a broken man and pay the price or cut the bond between the two of you and close the door. Walk away knowing you tried, you gave, you wanted but only God can put a broken man back together again. A broken man can only leave a trail of heartache and illegitimate feelings behind him.
He's broken, don't allow it to break you.
The Lord will work out his plans for my life--
for your faithful love, O Lord, endures forever.
Don’t abandon me, for you made me.